Most people have gone through at least one break up at some point in their lives. For some of you, while it may have been a difficult process, you were able to see the light at the end of the tunnel and move on. For others, however, you may still be struggling with feelings of self-doubt, devastation and plain old heartbreak while you wonder what’s in store for you next.
You might wonder if or how you will ever get through this or if you will move on. While only God knows what will happen next, here are a few reminders from the Bible to get you through this trialling time in your life.
Think about what is excellent and praiseworthy
Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable — if anything is excellent or praiseworthy — think about such things. — Philippians 4:8 (NIV)
Don’t get into a downward spiral of thinking negative or derogatory thoughts, about yourself or your ex. If a negative thought slips into your mind, replace it with a positive one: whatever is noble, right, pure, lovely, admirable, excellent, or praiseworthy.
Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. — 1 Thessalonians 5:16–18 (NIV)
Showing gratitude in the midst of a broken heart isn’t easy. But it’s necessary. The Bible tells us to ‘give thanks in all circumstances’ (1 Thessalonians 5:18), not just when we feel happy. Be grateful that you’re not in a fruitless relationship. Be grateful that you can learn from the mistakes of past relationships in order to grow for your next relationship. Be grateful that you now have time to spend on fellowship, serving others, reading the Bible and learning more about God.
Rely on the strength of Jesus
Turn to Jesus for strength and contentment in ‘any and every situation’ (Philippians 4:12). Your mind and body might feel weak right now, but you are stronger than you know — you can get through anything with God’s great strength (2 Corinthians 12:10; 1 Corinthians 1:25).
I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through him who gives me strength. — Philippians 4:12–13 (NIV)
Trust in God’s plan
Even though no one may ever understand it, this was a part of God’s plan. Trust in God and His plan, and one day you’ll see it really was for the best. Perhaps you will move on to a better relationship. Perhaps you have been saved from a destructive relationship and future with that person. Perhaps you are now free to fulfil whatever God wants you to do. God knows best (1 John 3:20) and His purpose will prevail, despite any plans we like to make for ourselves (Proverbs 16:9).
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding — Proverbs 3:5 (NIV)
Remember that you are loved
You may have thought he was ‘the one’, and now, you feel like you’ve got no one. But that couldn’t be further from the truth. You have the only one that matters — God. God loves you despite your flaws; He died for you on the cross while you were still a sinner (Romans 5:8). It may not be the romantic love you desire, but God’s love is a selfless, perfect, eternal love (John 3:16; Psalm 136).
Have you ever found yourself struggling to cope with a break up? What helped you get through it?